Life Coach Santa Fe, New Mexico – Conversations Among Masters Member
Today is Valentine’s Day and in many parts of the world people express their love and appreciation in infinite ways. Some describe it as a strong emotion and personal attachment. Merriam Webster Dictionary defines it as ”the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another.”
Creatives write, paint, dance, sing, etc., to what seems to be an endless expression of this “feeling.”
I know of no other emotion that moves through such depths of dark and light.
Is love something to be managed or controlled?
Can we access it on command?
What would life be if our primary choices were based on the notion of loving one another?
Like most holidays, they come and go inviting us into the feeling of love and compassion. So why is it that most of us simply slide into “business as usual” returning back to our computers, mobile devices and life as we know it?
For me, it’s all about becoming conscious of my values, integrity and desires. Ritual is my vehicle towards transformation in order to attain the essence of love. Fear will always be the divider that will overshadow what is possible for me.
“To trust in the force that moves the universe is faith. Faith isn’t blind, it’s visionary. Faith is believing that the universe is on our side, and that the universe knows what it’s doing. Faith is a psychological awareness of an unfolding force for good, constantly at work in all dimensions”. ~ Marianne Williamson
Choose your thoughts carefully … you are a masterpiece of your life. Be gratetful for what you already have.
Love is always available… one breath at a time.
As we enter the new year, consider these simple and familiar principles for a happier life. Instead of the usual quick read, pause and absorb how these could be useful to the specifics of what’s going on now.
Balance
An even distribution of weight enabling someone or something to
remain upright and steady…
Maybe?
When I was a young gymnast, one of my goals was to hold a handstand. That would represent to the judges, that I had demonstrated that I possessed balance. In my floor exercise routine, I quickly learned that balance was not a destination, but just a moment in time. In hindsight, I now understand that balance is an illusion and only a temporary moment in which we seem to “have it right”. Even that handstand is moving in subtle ways to appear still. The handstand is on a rotating planet and a moving universe.
As a Life Coach, client’s come to me for a wide range of reasons, but one very common request is “How do I create balance in my life?”
What I have learned is that this concept means different things to each individual. One common thread is time.
We people give away a large portion of that special commodity
to our jobs, family, and anyone else that will take a piece of you.
That is where the challenge lies. Tolerations and boundaries is an area in our lives to address so that we may be “set free” from others.
What brings you joy and self-nourishment? What can you remove or give away to create space for the things you love?
We have been rewarded in various forms for our selflessness and what we can do for other’s. I fully am aligned to be of service, but at what cost?
The source of a great life is Self Care. In these difficult times ahead, sacrifice will be the rhetoric of the upcoming year. If you are not on a path to recovery, you are headed towards yet another disappointment and resentment. Can you afford not to take the actions now? It is inevitable if your needs are not met.
How will you create value needed to grow in this world?
Here are a few suggestions that will get you started on the road to “living on purpose”.
It’s a start and that’s what matters.
p.s that’s me on the bottom right 
Codependency (or codependence, interdependency ) is defined as a psychological condition or a relationship in which a person is controlled or manipulated by another who is affected with a pathological condition (as in an addiction to alcohol or heroin); and in broader terms, it refers to the dependence on the needs of or control of another.[1] It also often involves placing a lower priority on one’s own needs, while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others.[2] Codependency can occur in any type of relationship, including family, work, friendship, and also romantic, peer or community relationships.[2] Codependency may also be characterized by denial, low self-esteem, excessive compliance, or control patterns.[2] Narcissists are considered to be natural magnets for the codependent. From Wikipedia
No… not the infamous song from Simon and Garfunkel but the appearence of nothing.
“Hello darkness my old friend, I’ve come to talk with you again”
Silence is the relative or total lack of audible sound. By analogy, the word silence can also refer to any absence of communication, including in media other than speech.[1] Silence is also used as total communication, in reference to non verbal communication and spiritual connection. Silence also refers to no sounds uttered by anybody in a room or area. Silence is an important factor in many cultural spectacles, as in rituals.
Wikipedia nails it… Can their be nothing?
Miles Davis used silence as the point were the music IS.
I love the notion of silence as ‘total communication’ or spiritual connection.
What do you hear in your silence?
Since the beginning, fear has dominated the cultures and human dysfunction continues to install negative views of ourselves. The “not good enough” mantra controls us at the very core and people suffer in silence. People lose confidence in their ability to succeed, they stop taking actions that can work because they don’t know how to make them work, and they can’t tell anyone because they’re supposed to be successful and happy.
Our world is partially shaped by this ‘belief system’ adding violent communication to everyday exchanges instead of loving and nurturing language. People by default have descended into different forms of “checking out” with drugs, alcohol, sex, politics, anger and anything that will distract them from their feelings of pain.
I subscribe that this pain can be converted into a ‘powerful resource’ and can enlighten the individual to truly have a transformative experience.
Its kind of simple… people want to feel safe, loved and valued. Why not YOU?
It is the human experience to succeed and fail and that this is the goldmine for fresh new ideas and beliefs. We can select this opportunity to “pan for the gold” even while in it. If you believe that all is connected, then all is possible, at least the life you want to take away.
It doesn’t matter “what you do” as much as a connection to who you are and your purpose.
I disagree with those “implanted” thoughts and will guide you back to your inherent perfection.
I am not willing to “buy into” the notion that you can’t when YES is around the corner.
I am not willing for you to under-value yourself and the great money you deserve.
I am not willing for you to be placed in an environment that you don’t feel loved, supported and valued.
I am not willing for your life to be “business as usual”.
I have had my ass kicked on more than one occasion and refuse to lie down. I’ve been there, done that and figured out how to get up and get going and access what is inherently good.
The time is now for you to take a stand!!!
This is no accident but a calling.
I’m the help and here to support a happy and prosperous life.
Houston, TX – (June 9,2011) – On September 26, 2010, the Ron Helman Jazz Ensemble performed in Santa Fe’s Performing Arts center at The Lensic Theater. Aniden Interactive was asked to produce a concert DVD capturing the performance.
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